Since getting engaged in Thailand back in May, it’s been a whirlwind few months. The day we got engaged, we discussed getting married right away. We’ve been together for almost 11 years, so why wait?
We knew we wanted a small, intimate ceremony with just our parents and siblings and a party afterward with our closest friends and family. We also knew we wanted to get married back in Maine. It’s the place where our relationship began and holds such a special place in our hearts and memories. And so we did just that!
I still can’t stop smiling. Four months seems like an impossible timeline to pull off a wedding, but we did it. It all came together in no small part to my parents, who scouted locations, cake-tested, and met with caterers in Maine. My mom and I had a shared Pinterest board to organize our ideas and mood board, and Sawyer and I didn’t even see the venue until the day before the wedding!
I like to think that I was a pretty low-maintenance bride and was happy to forgo many of the “traditional” wedding rituals for an affair that was more our speed. We opted out of the bridal shower, the bachelor/bachelorette parties, and bridal party/groomsmen. To us, these felt like unnecessary expenditures and too rooted in tradition. We’ve always liked to do things our way, anyway!
My dress was custom (I designed it myself!) from a bridal boutique here in SF, Lace and Liberty. It’s actually a lace bodysuit and a skirt! I felt like this style suited my taste more than a classic wedding “gown.” The process was beyond easy and the fabulous ladies at L&L made it so fun.
The only two things I was particular about were the flowers and the photos. My mom and I actually got all the flowers for both my bouquet and the table arrangements at Whole Foods and Trader Joe’s! She also saved some peonies from her garden to use in my bouquet (she clipped them as buds in MAY and preserved them in the fridge until our September wedding… unREAL). We assembled the bouquet together and it is a memory I will cherish forever.
I found our photographer, Mat, on IG and was smitten with the way he used natural light in his photos. I was looking for someone who could capture the casual-yet-elegant, whimsical-yet-retro vibes I pined for in our wedding photos. We wanted fun. We wanted enchanting. And we got it all with Mat. Maine brides – PLEASE book him for your wedding. His work will blow you a-WAY.
Sawyer’s brother, Andy, officiated our ceremony. He got ordained a few months before the wedding and we felt so honored to be married by a close family member instead of a total stranger.
We couldn’t have asked for a better day, surrounded by our closest friends and family, back in the place where it all began. I still feel like I’m floating on a cloud! ☁️ Can we do this every year?
Hey, remember me? Popping in to say hello and what a year it has been. In April, I had the privilege of participating in the second annual Femme Fair. One part community event, one part fancy garage sale, all parts female empowerment movement – Femme Fair was a sight to behold. From intellectual talks and panels, to immersive photo experiences, to shopping galore, Femme Fair brought over 200 Bay Area women together to connect and build relationships.
Check out the stunning photos that Jess Onesto captured during the day!
When I was 17, I failed my driver’s test. Twice. When I finally did pass, my parents bought my brother and me a green 2000 Ford Focus to share. My brother was in college living at home, and I was in my senior year of high school. Being the bratty little sister that I was, I insisted that I take the car to school during the week. I would drive it to school and leave it parked in the student parking lot. My brother had to take the city bus to the next town over to go to class (legit still feel bad about this – sorry Kyle!).
At the time, having a car meant the freedom to do whatever I wanted with my friends after school without needing to be picked up or dropped off by my parents. I certainly wasn’t thinking about heavy things like car insurance and deductibles.
I’ve alluded to this quite a few times on Instagram, so I thought it was high time I sat down and put together a proper post on the topic of my wardrobe. Over the summer, I noticed a shift in myself. I found that I mostly wore a handful of pieces while the rest of my wardrobe remained most untouched.
I’d heard the term “capsule wardrobe” floating around the internets for quite some time but honestly the concept didn’t appeal to me because of how restricting and narrow the capsule wardrobes seemed. How could someone who loves clothes and style as much as I do restrict themselves to only a few items of clothing?
Okay, I’ll admit it: I’m an indulgent person. I’m never one to deprive myself of something fabulous. If I want it, I will most likely get it, and this goes for pretty much everything (clothing, makeup, all the delicious foods, etc., etc., etc.).
HOWEVER. I am not rich. By any means. Therefore, I cannot indulge my every whim or I would shop myself into a giant hole of debt.
So, I’ve figured out the three things that I want to prioritize over everything else I spend my money on. I allow myself to splurge on these things while cutting back on the other aspects of my life. It would be amazing to be able to afford everything my heart desired and more, and maybe someday I will get there. For right now, this is what works for me (and obviously we all have different priorities), so keep reading to find out the three things that I splurge on and WHY I choose to spend my money on these three things.
Omg, shoes. Such a cliche girly thing to say but hear me out, okay? I’m not spending my money on designer shoes. In fact, I have never owned a pair of designer shoes (even though those Gucci loafers are mighty enticing). I prefer to buy high quality, well-made shoes that will last me years.
It’s important to be kind to your feet when you’re young. I’ve stopped wearing heels entirely because they’re uncomfortable and the payoff just isn’t there. Nowadays, I find myself drawn to mules, flat boots, and comfortable sandals. Finding comfy shoes that are also high-quality is important to me – after all, who am I trying to impress?
Finding sustainably made shoes is also important to me. Nisolo is one of those brands that just gets it. Their shoes are extremely comfortable, well-made, and high quality – they sell the shoes that you wish you could find in other stores. Nisolo designs their shoes in Nashville and makes them in Peru. They’re also 100% sustainable and their workers get paid a fair wage. I currently own two pairs of Nisolos (this pair and this pair) and plan to get more this season.
I’m also a huge fan of Freda Salvadorand I’m currently saving up for my first pair. Their shoes are super unique and give off major cool-girl vibes. Fredas are designed in Sausalito and handmade in Spain by a family of shoemaking artisans. They’re designed to last and be enjoyed by generations to come.
I may not have many pairs of shoes, but I’m happy wearing a few well-made pairs that will last me for years.
The second thing I splurge on is my hair. It’s important for my hair to be my crowning jewel – it’s on my head every day, after all! That’s why I really don’t mind spending a bit of extra cash to keep my hair looking luscious.
I go to diPietro Todd Salon in Walnut Creek (diPietro Todd has a few salons around the Bay Area) and typically ask for a full balayage/foil. The Balayage technique is hand-painted, so it grows out very naturally; I only need to go in a few times a year to touch up my color. I also “dust” my hair between trim appointments (read about hair dusting here!), and therefore only need to go in for a cut when my hair needs a good shaping.
Between appointments, I extend the life of my color by only using sulfate-free hair products and applying the Oribe Glaze for Beautiful Color once a week. It keeps my hair healthy and glossy! I also loveMiriam Quevedo White Caviar Shampoo. It’s pricey but honestly, I’ve never used another shampoo like it! It thoroughly cleanses my hair and scalp but doesn’t strip my hair. One time, I completely forgot to use conditioner afterward and didn’t even notice a difference.
To moisturize my curls, I use Oribe Supershine moisturizing cream. My hair is naturally dry, so I use the regular Oribe Supershine – but for those who are prone to greasiness, Oribe makes Supershine Light which is less heavy. Once my hair has dried, I’ll add in a bit more Supershine for extra glossiness – this product is seriously heaven-sent. Depending on the day, I’ll also spritz in a bit of the Oribe Aprés Beach spray. I’ve also been loving Living Proof T.B.D. Multi-Tasking Styler for second-day waves and curls.
So – with a few splurge-worthy hair appointments throughout the year, quality cuts and color, and good hair products, my crowning jewel has never looked better! ;)
I’ve talked about my skincare routine in-depth in the past, and not much has changed. I am fastidious about my skincare and don’t mind splurging big bucks for the products that deliver results.
Overall, though the products may fluctuate from time to time, I have a pretty solid process that I follow daily. Consistency is the key to great skin, so regardless of the specific products, if you follow a consistent schedule/routine, you’ll most likely see great results. Another thing to keep in mind with skincare: results take time. Not days, not even weeks, but months and sometimes years. Did you know that it takes two weeks for a zit to form underneath your skin and finally surface? Think about that for a minute.
Every evening, I’ll use an oil-based cleanser, like a balm or cleansing oil, to remove the makeup and dirt from the day (currently loving this one by Rodial). After massaging in the cleanser for about a minute, I remove with a clean muslin cloth that I run under hot water. Once my skin is clean, I squirt a glycolic acid toner (I use the Pixi Glow Tonic) onto a cotton pad and swipe all over my face and neck. Then, after the toner has dried, I apply my Retinol treatment (this one from The Ordinary is my jam and only $10). On top of that goes my serum – currently using this one from Instytutum. Finally, I pat my Indie Lee Squalane Oil onto my face and neck. I’ll also apply my old standby, Kiehl’s Creamy Eye Treatment with Avocado, around my orbital bones. I top everything off by sleeping with a silk eye mask and silk pillowcase to lock in the moisture.
It’s taken years of routine for my skin to look good, and I definitely want to keep it that way! I try to go in for a facial once a season (so 4x a year) to keep my skin balanced.
Honestly, if you have great skin and hair, you don’t need much makeup. Also, great shoes can totally elevate an outfit. I’m happy dressing myself in Old Navy and ASOS and buying my mascara at Walgreens if it means I can delegate my funds to these three splurge-worthy categories.
Now that you know mine, I’d love to know… what are the things you like to splurge on? Leave me a comment and let’s chat!
September is a strange month. On one hand, September feels as though it should kick off the Fall season. I love pulling my cozy sweaters out of the closet and pairing them with high-waisted denim (these are my fave fave fave) and ankle boots. Sadly, those sweaters will have to stay in the closet for a bit longer, because September is gearing up to be h-o-t in the Bay. We’ve been working hard to get our patio in tip-top shape to enjoy the last of this Indian Summer, and I’ll definitely be sharing the big reveal in a few weeks.
I’m also jetting off to LA this weekend for a little celebratory getaway – my big bro is turning the big 30! Looks like I’ll be wearing my breezy linen skirts and knotted tees a little while longer…. Happy September! ✌🏼